16 Life Lessons a girl needs to learn and follow

Girls are always special, aren’t they? They look up for love, light, and guidance and always try to be the best possible ones. As a woman, we balance relationships, friendships and family while trying from time to time to squeeze in a little fun. It is very fun, indeed, to hold to every ounce of your childhood as an adult. Over time, we learn how to deal with the good , the bad and the bad right hideous, but it is what makes life so valuable. It’s all right to eat a chocolate bar of share size once in a while, and it’s certainly all right to admit that everything is not everything right sometimes. We are all always learning, and the best thing that we can learn together is to be part of a wonderful welcoming community. Take a look at our dream life.

I’d like to give a small piece of knowledge to all my ones. I want to give them 16 little light bulbs to illuminate their journey…

1. Don’t strive to be popular, settle for being yourself, settle into yourself.

Over the years, I’ve learned that popular people are the most insecure. The popular girl or boy surrounds him or herself with others to hide from their own insecurities. When you settle for yourself, you will never settle for anyone who is not themselves.

 2. Say ‘No’ at least once a day.

Don’t be a people pleaser. You can’t do everything and you can’t please everyone, so say, No. By saying no, you are respecting yourself and your energy. Trust me, people will respect you more because when you do say yes, you will mean it. No one will ever question your presence or intention.

3. Know that you are absolutely right when you think that the calculus class you are taking is boring…and is information you will never use in real life.

You are right, yet understand that the patience you cultivate when sitting through the class, and the discipline you strengthen to solve the problem, will be the foundation that will allow you to persevere through every challenge and experience in life.

4. If you go shopping and you like something, don’t buy it right then.

Put it on hold. Go about your day, go to sleep, and the next day if you are still thinking of it, buy it.

5. Choose something to have faith in.

If you have faith, you have hope, and when you have hope you always find a way. When you see a way, you never give up.

6. Listen to the whisper, the churn in your belly, and the goosebumps on your arms.

Those sensations are not sensations at all, they are you speaking. Don’t listen to the second voice, that is just doubt, and definitely don’t listen to the third voice, that is just someone else’s opinion. Always and only trust yourself.

7. Find Your Yoga.

I don’t care if you ever do a down dog in your entire life, just find something that calms your mind and devote yourself to it. Find something that keeps your mind and body connected, healthy, and working together, because, in the times when everything else seems disconnected, it will keep you centered and grounded.

8. Acknowledge your gift.

God put you on this Earth with a legacy, you just have to see it. How do you see it? See this life as a journey. Learn as much as you can, read as much as you can, dance as much as you can, speak as much as you can, listen as much as you can, do as much as you can, travel as much as you can because that’s how you will see it. It’s already inside of you, you just need to spark it, so ignite as many flames as you can, and notice which one keeps burning. That goes for your life partner and your friends too.

Say hello to strangers, smile at the person sitting next to you at the coffee shop, or the person behind you at the grocery store. You never know, not only could they be your everlasting flame, but they could help reveal your gift. Your gift is your legacy, the legacy that will help serve the world.

9. Look around you and see the world, as you do now.

Point and rejoice as you see a bird fly by. Stand with your nose pressed to the glass as the rain pours down. Pick up a leaf or a flower and hold it as you would a piece of gold. Put it on your nightstand and cherish it. If you do this, you will take care of our earth and you may even heal it.

10. Check-in with yourself when you leave someone’s presence.

Ask yourself, do I feel uplifted and happy? Or, do I feel depleted and lethargic? If you feel uplifted, the person you were just with is a supporter, keep them around. If you feel depleted, the person you were with is an enemy to your heart, don’t associate with them and make no apologies.

11. Clean your room.

How you keep your space, is how you keep your mind. When things are neat, clarity will walk with ease.

12. Write

Your thoughts are precious and important. The best guidance you will get, is from yourself. Write them down and read them.

13.If you only remember one thing, remember this: You are the most important person in the whole world.

You determine your own direction, and if you trust your own compass, you will always remain on your path.

 

14.  Someone will break your heart real bad, but that does not mean you break someone else’s heart in return. 

This isn’t a tit for tat game. Don’t waste your time thinking of how you’ve been burned in the past, holding onto grudges, bringing baggage that does not belong in a relationship. Let karma do her thing. Move on, and trust me, you’ll find the right person. Let go and make room for the good.

15. Never stop learning

I’ve become so confident in myself. Not because of my looks, not because of what I wear, but because of what I know. Knowledge is power. I feel confident in my ability to talk to anyone about anything. Although I might not know everything. I can keep a conversation going for the simple fact that I’ve continued to learn. My favorite place to learn is Lynda.com. Check with your library and see if they offer it for free.

16. Keep your family as first priority

Eat together.  Read together.  Play together.  Pray together.
We knew that our family came first when we were little.  If we had something to do, our family was always involved.   We went on family vacations, spent birthdays and holidays with our families.

The few key tips to follow are: #1 Learn to be happy by yourself. #2 Family comes first. #3 Don’t bottle up emotions. #4 Love yourself. #5 Never underestimate yourself. #6 Don’t chase money, chase happiness. #7 Look after your health. #8 Things can change in a day. #9 Time heals. #10 Take risks. #11 Everything happens for a reason. #12 Don’t forget to laugh. #13 Forget the small stuff. #14 Cherish your friendships. #15 You are not alone.